Carol Anderson grows up in a fundamentalist Christian home in the ’60s, a time when being gay was in opposition to all social and religious mores and against the law in most states. Fearing the rejection of her parents, she hides the truth about her love orientation, creating emotional distance from them for years, as she desperately struggles to harness her powerful attractions to women while pursuing false efforts to be with men.
The watershed point in Carol’s journey comes when she returns to graduate school and discovers the feminist movement, which emboldens her sense of personal power and the freedom to love whom she chooses. But this sense of self-possession comes too late for honesty with her father. His unexpected death before she can tell him the truth brings the full cost of Carol’s secret crashing in–compelling her to come out to her mother before it is too late. Candid and poignant, You Can’t Buy Love Like Thatreveals the complex invisible dynamics that arise for gay people who are forced to hide their true selves in order to survive–and celebrates the hard-won rewards of finding one’s courageous heart and achieving self-acceptance and self-love (From Goodreads)
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I don’t really have a rating system for memoirs as I do not read them often enough. But I enjoyed this one. I’ve often thought of how much I’ve admired people who grew up gay in times like the 50’s, and 60’s. Life was a lot more cookie cutter and challenging back then. Being Gay was very frowned upon, much more so than now. That being said, I wish this book would have delved a bit more into the raw emotions of living in the 60’s and being gay, and being looked down upon with so much hatred. Also that just could be how memoirs are written, I am not entirely sure.
I did like the writing style, and I did find that the book pulled me in. My heart hurt for some of the things she had to endure. Overall, I liked this memoir, and of the ones I’ve read prior, this one ranks pretty high. I would say that Carol has strength, and determination, and is a force to be reckoned with, she is very admirable, and should be looked up to by other females. In my opinion that is.