Book Review Of “Stay With Me” By Ayobami Adebayo @AAKnopf @ayobamiadebayo
Yejide and Akin have been married since they met and fell in love at university. Though many expected Akin to take several wives, he and Yejide have always agreed: polygamy is not for them. But four years into their marriage–after consulting fertility doctors and healers, trying strange teas and unlikely cures–Yejide is still not pregnant. She assumes she still has time–until her family arrives on her doorstep with a young woman they introduce as Akin’s second wife. Furious, shocked, and livid with jealousy, Yejide knows the only way to save her marriage is to get pregnant, which, finally, she does, but at a cost far greater than she could have dared to imagine. An electrifying novel of enormous emotional power, Stay With Measks how much we can sacrifice for the sake of family. (From Goodreads)
The biggest lies are often the ones we tell ourselves, I bit my tongue because I did not want to ask questions. I did not ask questions because I did not want to know the answers.
First and foremost, Thank you to Alfred Knopf Books, (a.k.a. Aaknopf) for sending me this book for free in exchange of an honest review. I give this book a 5 out of 5 stars.
I have never read a book based in Nigeria, neither did I know their customs, and their beliefs on Polygamy. Also there were many words and phrases that I looked up while reading this story. I love books that push my mind, that I can learn from as well as enjoy. This is one of the most unique books that I have read in quite a while. It was beautiful, it was tragic, it was intense, and overall gut wrenching. I finished this book in less than 24 hours. To say it was unputdownable is an understatement.
I am not sure how to put my review into words, this book was full of raw emotions. I did not come away from reading it with a sense of happiness.I feel like what these two people do for love will break your heart, countless times. I couldn’t believe the extremes both Yejide and Akin went to. I almost felt like loving each other just wasn’t enough. They had to have a child. And I felt like along the way they lost of sight of that, it wasn’t about them loving each other anymore, it became about getting Jejide pregnant and going to any extreme they could think of.
Did their sacrifices pay off? When you put that much stress on a marriage, can they come away unscathed? You will have to read this one to find out. There is so much more to this book, so much that is not mentioned in the synopsis that I can’t risk spoiling it for you. What is not written in the synopsis is what broke my heart, time and time again.
The reason why we do the things we do will not always be the ones that others will remember. Sometimes I think we have children because we want to leave behind someone who can explain who we were to the world when we are gone.